By Sharon De Ryck
The Power of Forgiveness The gift you give yourself this Holiday Season. The Forgiveness theme has been floating around in my mind for quite some time now and I was very resistant to writing about it. Why? I really have no answer, so “why not!” Here goes.
Many of you may relate to this. Once given a “message” to do something, it does not let up until you follow through with it. I got a big push to write this. The Universe went so far as to put Forgiveness in my line of sight daily, with many articles on the subject ‘jumping out’ at me for weeks. So dear readers, here goes my take on what I know and what I have learned over the years about The Power of Forgiveness.
Forgiveness is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself! When you rid yourself of worrying or resenting an individual by Forgiving them for something they may have done or said to you, it is similar to a bag of cement falling away from your shoulders. Just imagine living, walking, working, sleeping, carrying that heavy load day after day. Once the load is gone, you lose pounds – literally. You will feel lighter, happier and walk with a new bounce in your step. People around you will notice the difference and will comment on how you have changed.
Apologize – another form of forgiveness. I have found that rather than insist on being right, even when I know I am, I flip the energy around by offering an apology! The other person is often surprised, so next time, Try it! You may find you have ‘taken the wind out of their sails’ by doing so. I call this loving yourself for refusing to engage negatively. You do not want to be ‘dragging around resentment like a heavy ball and chain.’
It has been said that “holding unforgiveness is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die.” Don’t take that poison! Forgive, apologize, forget and move on with your life. You are worth it! Do not hold the opinion that forgiveness releases the person who hurt you from blame. Not at all! You have forgiven! Not forgotten! By forgiving, you have given yourself “a wonderful gift of peace and harmony and released the negative energy associated with the experience.
Here is something very profound I read some time ago that makes so much sense. “Scientists, physicians, and psychologists who have researched the relationship between stress and illness have concluded that the ability or inability to forgive affects the outcome of serious illness. People who have a forgiving nature increase their chances of recovery.”
Very interesting! I have heard people say to me, “I will never forgive or forget” when they are sad or angry at someone who has hurt them. It saddens me for them, because I sense the bitterness they are holding on to in their lives. There is no inner peace while negative energy is choking that inner peace out.
My advice is always “Please try to Forgive. You need not forget! Love yourself and know that every moment you spend upset, anguished, angry, worried or hurt because of someone else’s behaviour, is a moment in which you have chosen to give up control of your life. You are special! Reclaim your power! There is no one like you and there never will be. Please think of Forgiveness as the gift you give yourself!”
Here is a short Forgiveness Exercise you may find useful. Find a quiet place where you can sit for 5 minutes or so uninterrupted. Start by blessing everything in your life, your family, friends, supportive people, job, money, pets, your health and whatever you feel blessed having even the trees and Mother Nature. Then say:“ I bless everything in my life. (You may want to repeat what you feel blessed having and doing) All blessings are multiplied in my life. I feel a tremendous surge of this beautiful blessed energy flowing through and around me. My life now goes forward in joy, peace and prosperity. I attract to myself only that which is for my Highest Good. And So It Is!”
You may wish to repeat it several times during the day.
May you welcome 2019 free from the negativity of unforgiveness, and may it be a Powerful New Beginning for you. My New Year Wishes for you are: May you soar to new and exciting heights in all your endeavours and may your Mantra for 2019 be “I GIVE MYSELF PERMISSION TO BE ABUNDANT, HEALTHY AND PROSPEROUS.” May you always walk gently in sandals of love!
Namaste, Sharon de Ryck
www.healing-path-centre.com p.s. I would love to hear your thoughts on Forgiveness and how Forgiveness has changed your life.