I just arrived back home from a month long family visit in Germany. I grew up in Bonn, the old capital of Germany, and after graduating High School I went on backpacking travels around the world. Until I met my (now) wife in Vancouver, BC and stayed. It’s incredible how quickly time passes by, I have lived here in Canada for 11 years now, WOW!
That's me & my sleeping baby nephew at the university botanical gardens in Bonn. They're incredible, so much diversity! It's a beautiful place to take babies for a walk in nature, even though we're in the middle of a city.
Being this far away from my family is both a blessing and a curse. When I visit them, I stay for 2-4 weeks, everybody makes time to go on adventures together, whether it’s going to the museum, getting more family and friends together and play, or even going on a short trip to a different city (this time we went to Rome, it was amazing!). We actually get to spend day-to-day life together for a while and it’s wonderful.
Since I am so far away we make a point of communicating often via messages or Facetime, and I think that we are a lot closer to each other because of it. On the other hand, I sometimes feel sad and lonely because I only get to hug them once a year. Being this far away really sucks sometimes. Wouldn’t it be amazing if we could beam ourselves over for a hug or family dinner? That would be so cool!
All this to say that family (and friends) are important. If we don’t make an effort to connect, time will slip by without seeing each other, and before you know it, someone will be at the end of their life. People will feel sad and guilty for not spending more time together, but then go back to their lives and continue as before. Buried in work, and day to day busyness, thinking “tomorrow I will call __________ (fill in the blank)”, and then never do it.
Doing things that matter to us “tomorrow” isn’t good enough anymore. Tomorrow we will be just as busy with too much meaningless noise as today. Today is when we can make a change, create something new, connect with someone, dance, tell someone you love them. Today is when we stop dreaming about our “dream life”, and start building it, one tiny step at a time.
Today is a great day, we all got to wake up and live another day! It sounds so very basic and cliché, but, what are you going to do with it?! It’s up to you to decide how you want to live, and what kind of life you want to create!
Are you happy only seeing your partner in passing, quickly exchanging the day’s news while scarfing down dinner, knowing they’ll be asleep when you get back home? Or would you like to actually sit down for a family dinner and spend some quality time together? You’re working your butt off, getting close to burn out – again, only to feel unsatisfied with your work and the lack of recognition. Or do you want to create more balance in your life, with time to actually enjoy life, spend time with the people you love and have laughing fits together?
Life is too damn short to live a life you don’t love. You are worthy. Today can be the start of your new beginning. Are you ready?
I would like to invite you to a coaching conversation with me! What does your dream life look like? Why don’t you have it already? What’s standing in your way? I would be honoured to support you in dreaming it – and creating it. Today’s the day friends!
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