This article is about relationships and how to make them last, however, both parties should work on the relationship.
I hope you find the relationship tips both interesting and helpful.
What's the key to a successful relationship? Some might think that's the million-dollar question. Sometimes it's just the simple things, that we easily forget or think are unimportant that hold the key to a healthy and happy relationship. Read through the helpful tips below on how to make your relationship go the distance.
1. Without quality time together, your relationship will not survive, and that is a simple fact. You should aim to devote at least half an hour a night and at least one day a month when the two of you spend time exclusively together.
2. You both want to feel secure within the relationship and to have a good relationship you should know that it is built on compromise and a lot of giving and taking from both of you.
3. Often those little things that first attracted you to your partner can turn into nasty annoying habits. Did you not give an oath of loving the good, the bad and ugly warts and all in your partner? Don't try to change them into something they are not; after all, you fell in love with them just the way they were. And oh yes the warts will get bigger!!!
4. Money is one of the top conflicts between most couples and I refer to it as the root of the cause of all breaks up when you look at the factors that lead to the outcome. For the relationship to work, you need to address your finances and maybe even work out a budget and compromise and stick to the agreement.
5. Learn to argue well. Never say something to your partner that you would not want to hear said back. Just remember, the one good thing they say about arguing is the making up afterwards. No one is here to be right, right?
6. Communication is vital to all healthy relationships. Listen to your partner and avoid blame and judgement. Taking and holding responsibility for your actions is key in everything you do. Don't let your emotions dictate your behaviour. Remember just talking things over can help you to both have a deeper understanding of each other. Rule: STOP, Think, Plan what and how you are you are going to say whatever you want to say before you take Action.
7. Sort out your sex life - it may start to go downhill over the years, do not just accept it. As soon as you notice it, address it with your partner and work out why, and what to do to bring back the passion. Maybe one of you prefers more sex than the other and why not experiment with new ideas in the bedroom? Role play, dressing up, or maybe taking your sex life out of the bedroom and trying new places. The introduction of marital aids into the relationship can also help to spice things up and whatever you decide, remember communication is vital.
8. Try to keep your dependence and independence in balance. Tell your partner how much you need them, but don't get too dependent on them and cling to them all the time, as that can make your partner feel trapped. On the flip side of this, do not allow your partner to think you do not need them by isolating them, by going or doing things without them. Try to keep a happy and healthy balance between the two.
9. Learn to forgive. If you know you will never forgive your partner over something important, and feel the trust can never be regained then give yourself and him a break and start again with someone new. However, if you know that this is the person you want to be with then be the bigger person and say what and how you feel without judging the other's past.
10. Do not ever think that going to counselling or speaking to someone professional is a sign of a failed relationship for it can turn a bad relationship around. It can also turn an average relationship into an excellent one. More and more people are turning to mediators today than ever - it shows you are both prepared to try and make things better, which cannot be a bad thing at all.
In conclusion: The fact remains, that whether you're dating or married, relationships are hard. It takes 100% commitment from both of you. However, healthy and long-lasting relationships are achievable and many couples have proven just that. Not everything is always going to be perfect but if you both choose to make it work then it can and remember it is the little things that you sometimes do that can go a long way to making your relationship work.
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